Hey everyone! My name is Amanda Yoa I am an intuitive soul coach and founder of my business, Simply Aligned. I am also a stay at home mompreneur of my two amazing kiddos Anna (7) and Joey (2). I am married to my best friend and loving husband of almost 9 years, Joey.
Together my husband and I have it all - a loving communicative relationship, a fun loving family and the opportunity for the both of us to do what we love while providing for what we have.
While writing this to you all, a part of me feels how this can seem overwhelming because our roles and responsibilities seem never ending - and most times they are. I am always on the go - having family time, taking my daughter to sports practices, following around my curious wild boy, taking care of our home, as well as managing and creating soulful content for my business and clients. I truly believe if it were not for my efforts of centering myself - and being consistent with my self-care, this would all crumble around me. (The burn out vibes are real!)
It is imperative that we as women, as moms, as business owners, whatever your platform and duties, find time for ourselves. Having an outlet for self-care provides renewal to our soul, self-love & care to our hearts, and clarity to our minds.
INSERT "MARTYR MOM SYNDROME!" Your first thought may be, "well everything else must come first - my kids always come first and if that means putting myself aside for them then so be it!"
Wrong girlfriend - our relationship with our children, the way we communicate with them, the qualities we instill in them, all start with how we care for ourselves. The saying is true, you can't pour from an empty cup. If our children see us get frustrated and lash out when under stress, that is how they will learn to react. If we push our children away when we feel overwhelmed, that is what they will do when they feel overwhelmed.
You may be thinking, "I barely have time to shower how am I going to make time for myself?" Sometimes, it's all about perspective and intention. Take that shower but say to yourself, "I am taking this shower so I can clear my mind and thoughts for the day, when I step out of the shower I will be centered and ready to face anything today throws at me." Take a few moments at night while lying in bed, and center your mind for the next day. Breathe and clear out any negative thoughts or emotions that no longer serve you, and fill it with positive affirmations.
I have found over time doing this creates more space and opportunity for other forms of self care. Life is super busy, this I know and understand - so start out small with that shower or those few moments before you fall asleep, over time you will see your feeling of burn out will transform itself into positive coping and communication skills for you and your family. -- Many Thanks,
Amanda Yoa
One thing that I have noticed in working in the ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) field is that we focus more on changing behaviors that we can see. It is important to know and understand that thinking is also a behavior. Thinking is considered to be a covert behavior (a behavior that we cannot see); as opposed to an overt behavior (behaviors that we can see) such as running.
Our thoughts have a large impact on behaviors that we can see. This is why so many in the field try to work closely with others on building and strengthening coping mechanisms. It is important to take the time to find what coping mechanisms work for you as an individual, so that…